If you and your spouse are not getting along, it is difficult to come to the decision to file for divorce. If you have been married for awhile, you have acquired many posessions, assets and memories and it is difficult to think about getting rid of or splitting all of these up. Before you decide to call a divorce attorney, here are a few things to consider:
1.) STOP! Do you really want to take this step in the relationship? Maybe you can both go to a relationship counsellor, ask your religious leader to help, read the Relate website or take other steps to save the situation. That said sometimes when a person is known to have spoken to a Denver divorce lawyer, the other in the relationship realises how serious they are and that can cause a major change in them. But do think carefully, first.
2.) ASK people you know which lawyer they used and what their views were. All Denver lawyers are qualified in a similar way but you will most certainly need to have one who specialises in family / divorce law. Look on the Web. Who really looks like they specialise rather than say they do? If you can understand their website you will probably understand them. Do they offer fixed fees and/or do they tell you how much they charge? All these are very good signs.
3.) CONSIDER what you are really trying to achieve. Maybe you would like to have some counselling or "divorce coaching" to help you with that. Many people, perhaps understandably, go to a Denver divorce lawyer insisting upon what is really vengeance. Courts are very, very expensive places to attempt to mete out any form of punishment to a former spouse. Try to avoid this unless you want a legal bill of the huge figures one sometimes reads about.
4.) PREPARE your papers and figures. Make a note of your view of the valuations of valuable items such as house, car and investments. Try to get papers together on pensions, savings, bank accounts and salary for both of you. The more information you can provide, the more detailed advice you will receive at an early stage.
5.) DON'T agree to anything, formally or signed, with your spouse. That will come soon enough. Quite often we see cases where a dominant partner has pushed the other into a proposed financial settlement that is very, very unwise indeed. Listen to what they say by all means but find out what the traps are for the unwary, first. But if you have already come to an agreement, do tell your lawyer. Nobody will stop you going through with it provided you understand it. Denver Divorce lawyers are only there to advise, not to tell.
6.) CHECK you can have an informal talk to your proposed lawyer before you are committed. Can they communicate with you? Can you understand them? Do they seem understanding and knowledgeable? If not, go somewhere else. The vast majority of complaints about lawyers are about failure to communicate properly and not about legal ability. It does not matter how technically good they are and how many certificates they have if they can't help you understand what is happening.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
How Long Does a Divorce Take?
Written by: Janice Rubin
If you have been talking with others about the period of time a Denver divorce would take, you probably heard anything from 6 months to 6 years right? The real question is how long are you both willing to fight over children and property? If your children are young or newborn you could be having a child custody battle until the youngest one is 18 years old. Child custody battles are the most lengthy, expensive and emotional part of a divorce. No children and no property you could probably have divorce wrapped up in a couple of weekends if you both agree on everything.
The divorce will even be cheap because you both can share the same Denver family lawyer. The length of a divorce really depends on how much you both agree on everything, but when you don't agree on who gets the house, the children, the cars, the money, the insurance, the retirement and even the dogs, your in for a long and costly battle.
The Battle Over My 2 Dogs Alone
Which I finally got, cost me around $2k, maybe even more and 6 months of heartache because my ex-husband would not hand the dogs over. Not only that he would beat them, underfeed them, wouldn't take them to the vet, attached shock collars, and confined them to a tiny little space in the back yard. you would think the humane society would do something about it, but nope, there was nothing they can do. So I did what I had to do, get a professional Denver lawyer who advised me on how to get those back, 2 weeks and $2k later, I am the proud parent of my 2 dogs once again.
I Just Want To Move On
I know what you mean and if you're one of the lucky ones whose husband is willing to just agree to reasonable child custody and division of assets, praise the lord each and every day. However I have a feeling if you're reading this, it's because the issue of divorce concerns you in more than one way. Maybe you have already moved on emotionally and found a better life and significant other. Maybe you have escaped an emotionally or physically abusive relationship and want to cut all ties a quick as possible. Whatever the reason, I feel your pain and I want to tell you how to go about this as quickly as possible, but I also want to ensure you don't get taken advantage of, just because you are unfamiliar with the Denver divorce process.
Get Educated, Have a Plan, And A Really Good Lawyer
Just remember that how long does a divorce take all depends on how much you both equally agree about children and property. If you don't agree or already know that your husband or wife is not going to agree on either of those subjects, then you need to educate yourself now. If the divorce process has not started, do not wait! Get a good lawyer to protect your rights and start educating yourself. Take action now, never wait until things get out of hand in a divorce, because the one who acts last has a much harder chance of getting what they want and deserve. The decision that happen in a divorce battle are never fair and just and will always leave one of you unhappy with the results. Don't let yourself be that one
First thing first is to get a free consultation with an Denver family law attorney familiar with divorce and child custody in your court district.
Visit My Divorce Help
Get a free no cost obligation of your legal rights to divorce and custody. The free consultation will let you know yours and his legal rights to divorce and child custody. They will also let you know how to protect yourself and how much its going to cost. Just remember the first one to act will get the upper hand. Do not wait for him to get a lawyer first.
Secondly I highly recommend an online reference guide called Divorce Strategies and Tactics For Women. Its only $27 and its going to answer a lot of questions that you have about divorce.
Last but absolutely not least, if you have a child and you think there is even a slight chance of a custody battle get this guide on How to Win Child Custody. Child custody is a completely separate issue and battle from divorce and usually 90% of the expenses and heart ache. Use these strategies to get the upper hand from day one. I will tell you from experience, women do not always get primary custody, because the courts these days want the parents to have equal parenting. Do not wait until things start to go wrong to get this information that you should be doing even before you start the divorce process.
If you have been talking with others about the period of time a Denver divorce would take, you probably heard anything from 6 months to 6 years right? The real question is how long are you both willing to fight over children and property? If your children are young or newborn you could be having a child custody battle until the youngest one is 18 years old. Child custody battles are the most lengthy, expensive and emotional part of a divorce. No children and no property you could probably have divorce wrapped up in a couple of weekends if you both agree on everything.
The divorce will even be cheap because you both can share the same Denver family lawyer. The length of a divorce really depends on how much you both agree on everything, but when you don't agree on who gets the house, the children, the cars, the money, the insurance, the retirement and even the dogs, your in for a long and costly battle.
The Battle Over My 2 Dogs Alone
Which I finally got, cost me around $2k, maybe even more and 6 months of heartache because my ex-husband would not hand the dogs over. Not only that he would beat them, underfeed them, wouldn't take them to the vet, attached shock collars, and confined them to a tiny little space in the back yard. you would think the humane society would do something about it, but nope, there was nothing they can do. So I did what I had to do, get a professional Denver lawyer who advised me on how to get those back, 2 weeks and $2k later, I am the proud parent of my 2 dogs once again.
I Just Want To Move On
I know what you mean and if you're one of the lucky ones whose husband is willing to just agree to reasonable child custody and division of assets, praise the lord each and every day. However I have a feeling if you're reading this, it's because the issue of divorce concerns you in more than one way. Maybe you have already moved on emotionally and found a better life and significant other. Maybe you have escaped an emotionally or physically abusive relationship and want to cut all ties a quick as possible. Whatever the reason, I feel your pain and I want to tell you how to go about this as quickly as possible, but I also want to ensure you don't get taken advantage of, just because you are unfamiliar with the Denver divorce process.
Get Educated, Have a Plan, And A Really Good Lawyer
Just remember that how long does a divorce take all depends on how much you both equally agree about children and property. If you don't agree or already know that your husband or wife is not going to agree on either of those subjects, then you need to educate yourself now. If the divorce process has not started, do not wait! Get a good lawyer to protect your rights and start educating yourself. Take action now, never wait until things get out of hand in a divorce, because the one who acts last has a much harder chance of getting what they want and deserve. The decision that happen in a divorce battle are never fair and just and will always leave one of you unhappy with the results. Don't let yourself be that one
First thing first is to get a free consultation with an Denver family law attorney familiar with divorce and child custody in your court district.
Visit My Divorce Help
Get a free no cost obligation of your legal rights to divorce and custody. The free consultation will let you know yours and his legal rights to divorce and child custody. They will also let you know how to protect yourself and how much its going to cost. Just remember the first one to act will get the upper hand. Do not wait for him to get a lawyer first.
Secondly I highly recommend an online reference guide called Divorce Strategies and Tactics For Women. Its only $27 and its going to answer a lot of questions that you have about divorce.
Last but absolutely not least, if you have a child and you think there is even a slight chance of a custody battle get this guide on How to Win Child Custody. Child custody is a completely separate issue and battle from divorce and usually 90% of the expenses and heart ache. Use these strategies to get the upper hand from day one. I will tell you from experience, women do not always get primary custody, because the courts these days want the parents to have equal parenting. Do not wait until things start to go wrong to get this information that you should be doing even before you start the divorce process.
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